Sex & Porn Addiction Counselling and Coaching

The goal of sex addiction treatment is not abstinence from sex, but the elimination of the compulsive, self-destructive aspects to create the opportunity to develop positive, vibrant and satisfying sexual relationships that reflect real emotional intimacy and connection.

Leigh was the partner of a sex addict for 10 years and a specialist in the area of addiction counselling.

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Are you addicted to porn or sex?

The following are key elements that may indicate the presence of a sexual addiction requiring therapy and  help from a professional:

  1. Loss of control: In which you do more than you originally intended or wanted to do;
  2. Negative consequences: your behaviours continue despite physical, psychological or emotional problems that are likely to have been caused or made worse by the behaviours;
  3. Loss of time: a lot of time is spent planning, engaging in, or recovering from the effects of the behaviour;
  4. Tolerance: the person is compelled to engage in the behaviour for increasingly longer periods of time, or in increasingly risky ways to achieve the previous levels of arousal;
  5. Withdrawal symptoms: Depression, rage, anxiety, sleep disturbance, or irritability emerge as the person tries to abstain from the behaviour;
  6. Inability to fulfil obligations: The behaviour interferes with important social, occupational or recreational activities.
  7. Repeated efforts to stop: Usually seen as persistent unsuccessful attempts to cut back on or limit the behaviour.

Sex addiction affects millions of people, young and old, male and female. So you are not alone. Most importantly, having sex addiction doesn’t mean you are bad or perverted or hopeless. It means you have a disease – a treatable disease from which many have healed through a proper counselling. The goal of sex addiction treatment is not abstinence from sex, but the elimination of the compulsive, self-destructive aspects to create the opportunity to develop positive, vibrant and satisfying sexual relationships that reflect real emotional intimacy and connection.

I can help, I am a specialist addiction therapist

I offer an empathic treatment of sex addiction and its effects on individuals, spouses/partners, couples, and families. The goal of treatment with me is rebuilding lives and relationships lost to sex addiction. Many problematic, out-of-control sexual behaviours are rightly classified as an addictive disorder.

As such, I follow the addiction treatment model that was originally formulated for the treatment of alcoholism and chemical dependency, which treats the addiction as the primary disorder rather than a symptom of an underlying condition. My work is influenced by Patrick Carnes and Paula Hall. 

Sex addiction treatment is primarily individual therapy I also offer individual and group therapy for the spouses/partners of addicts. I offer in person counselling in Johannesburg, Pretoria and Cape Town. I am available online via Skype or Google hangouts or any other format for those around the world.  Secrets keep us sick.  Your secrets are safe with me.  Sharing them with me will help to heal you and create an authentic, integrated whole person with a zest for life.  No more hiding in the dark behind a computer screen flashing pornographic images.

Book a session either online or in person where I will ask you a number of questions to assess whether you are on the spectrum of sex and porn addiction, codependency, love addiction or the partner of a sex addict.